The Art of ForgivenessIn response to the Apostle Peter’s question about how many times one should forgive one’s neighbor (“up to seven times?”), Christ says, “Seventy-seven times.” He tells a parable about a king who forgave his servant an enormous debt of 10,000 talents. However, upon leaving his master, this servant encountered a fellow servant who owed him a mere 100 denarii, and began to choke him, demanding repayment.
To grasp the magnitude of the sum, let’s do the math. A laborer’s day’s work was worth one denarius, and a talent was worth 6,000 denarii. An ordinary person could earn 10,000 talents in about 165,000 years, even if he lived from hand to mouth. We’re talking about an insurmountable, astronomical debt. Priests often say in their sermons that we are all in unpayable debt to God and are therefore obligated to forgive those who have wronged us. But it is difficult for modern people to accept the concept of debt: “I didn’t borrow anything!” However, debt is not only financial but also moral, such as, for example, a debt to one’s parents.
A paradoxical question arises. How can we learn to forgive? The parable contains a fundamental mystery: why did the servant, having received such incredible mercy, immediately begin to act cruelly? Why didn’t he throw a feast and enjoy his freedom? The answer likely lies in selfishness. The servant considered himself the center of the universe. In his world, devoid of God and commandments, only he and his money existed. The love of money empties the heart to such an extent that a person becomes a “living corpse,” incapable of loving or receiving love. Like this servant, we often fail to appreciate our parents’ love, resenting them for not giving us what we wanted, and we are unable to give love to others, expecting it only for ourselves.
The king ordered that this “living corpse” be cast into outer darkness, because the servant accepted the gift but rejected the love that could not be measured in money. Every person receives the gift of love from God, but few manage to preserve it intact. And yet the Lord values our small efforts. How can we help God? At the very least—by not multiplying evil, by breaking the chain of resentment and revenge.
It is important to understand that to forgive does not mean to agree with wrongdoing, to acknowledge the offender’s rightness, or to show weakness. The king did not tell the servant that he was right to keep the debt. But he stopped holding that debt against the servant in their relationship. Forgiveness is an acknowledgment that a person is not defined by their actions. God does not see us as the sum of our mistakes, words, or thoughts. Why, then, did the king forgive the debt? To kindle gratitude in the servant’s heart and give him a chance for repentance and salvation. Forgiveness creates the conditions in which the offender can change. By forgiving, we halt the spread of evil and become God’s co-workers in the salvation of our neighbor. Thus, forgiveness is not only a release from the burden in our own hearts, but also true service to God.
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