i've been sharing these (not these points exactly) with friends a lot over the years, because when it comes to the deathbed, the regrets spoken often narrows to the same few

humans are born social, so hold on to your friends (esp men) if you want to age gracefully and happily

generally my takeaways are:
• better to fail than regret
• stop comparing, be more present
• make that effort, do that inconvenience
• protect your peace, choose to be happy

related:
1. inconvenience is the price of community
2. time spent w different groups over time