Advice

Hello,

I'm not really sure what to title this post or exactly how to word it but... I'll try lol.

Does anyway have any advice on how to navigate dating while being ace? I've never dated in my life, never kissed, had sex etc at the age of 27. Never had crushes growing up, never interested in sex. But I have a deep desire for romance, to find my person and share my life with them. But... I don't feel attraction to people. Trying to swipe through dating apps or even ace dating sites and there's just nothing. And people often say "well it's their personality you're attracted to instead." but like when I'm looking at their profile I have no romantic interest. Even though I'm desperate for romance my brain will go "absolutely not, we don't want to kiss/cuddle with that person".

I just feel so... Trapped? Stuck? I don't know how to word it. I mean hell, I'm currently undergoing therapy to treat potential vaginismus (they have no clue if it actually is they're just working on the assumption, all we know for sure is any piv is physically impossible right now and incredibly painful to attempt) all just so I can actually be capable of sex even though I have no desire for it because I feel like I have no chance to find a partner otherwise. Sad I know, but that's just where I'm at.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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