I dont know if im ace or not

I’m 20 I don’t know what gender I am and that’s kind of the point of me writing this. I have had the thought recently that I am, aromantic, agender, and asexual, but I still want to be in a relationship where we sit and watch movies and cuddle up together and basically just be roommates who cuddle. But I don’t know if saying I’m aroace and agender makes me feel like I’m just saying it but I think I am, but I also feel likes I’m being performative I don’t know I’m just writing this to see if anyone even gets what I’m saying

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